After discussing our ‘Friendship Dramas’ we talked about a strategy that can instantly improve our relationships and friendships with others. It’s called Whole Body Listening:
- You listen with your brain to think about what the person is saying.
- You listen with your ears to hear what the person is saying.
- You listen with your eyes to see what the person is saying.
- You listen with your mouth by not talking when someone else is talking.
- You listen with your head and shoulders by pointing them towards the person.
- You listen with your heart by thinking about the emotions that the person might be feeling.
- You listen with your hands by not fidgeting.
- You listen with your legs and feet by keeping them still.
THAT IS WHOLE BODY LISTENING!
As part of our Friendship Saver Program we brainstormed a list of ‘Friendship Dramas’ that we encounter in the playground. It was important to acknowledge and discuss these issues so that we can work towards resolving them. We have kept this list to refer to as we continue with the program throughout the term. Take a look at what we came up with…
From past experience, term three in Grade Two is notorious for friendship dramas. To nip this in the bud, the Grade Two team thought it would be a good idea to implement ‘The Friendship Saver Program’. This program is designed to enhance students’ friendships and reduce conflict among peers. The program teaches essential social skills and independent conflict resolution skills. Research indicates that improved peer relations promote general wellbeing, school engagement, self-confidence and can improve academic focus. We are hoping that this program, along with our Oatlands ‘Friendship Club’, will enhance our kid’s relationships with one another.
In our Friendship Program this week we looked at Friendship Styles. There are three different styles – ‘Peas in a Pod’, ‘Tribal’ and ‘Bouncy Ball’.
A Pea in a pod is a type of friend that likes to have only one other best friend. They like to share all their secrets with that one other person, they like to play with that other person all the time and they don’t really like being separated.
With the Tribal style people tend to play together in a big group. They sit together, play games together and hang out together.
The Bouncy Ball is the friend who doesn’t necessarily like to play with anyone in particular. Sometimes they might play by themselves, sometimes they might play in a small group and sometimes they might play with two peas in a pod.
After discussing the advantages and disadvantages of each style we thought about which style we identified with the most. We talked about how none of the styles are better or worse than the other. We also discussed that you are not locked into a style. You might have a different preference at different times of your life, different times of the year or different days of the week. It was a great session that helped us develop an understanding of friendship group dynamics.
Why don’t you ask your child what style they identify with the most.